While there can be confusion with coffee date meaning, like whether it’s a romantic date or just a platonic meet up– in this piece we are referring to getting together for coffee for the potential of romance.
Is coffee a good first date?
In short, yes. It allows you to meet a new person romantically with no pressure for it to last a certain amount of time if it’s not going well.
Coffee Date Tips
What to talk about over coffee?
This is totally dependent on what you want to learn on your date, and how you want to portray yourself.
While you should plan to be true to yourself on a date, depending on how naturally verbose you are, it could be a good idea to come up with first coffee date questions. We recommend questions that will help you figure out if you have similar interests and values, and get to know your date deeper. Stay away from questions that would lead to one-word answers as they don’t get the conversation going. For instance – what was your favorite place you’ve ever been and why? Or what is your proudest accomplishment? If you value family – ask about family traditions. Anything that will get the person to share values and help you connect.
If you want to seem knowledgeable about coffee itself, here is a refresher on coffee facts to get you going.
How long should a first coffee date last?
It all depends on how much chemistry there is between you. If you are both enjoying each other’s company, the date should last about an hour at which point it may be appropriate to suggest a second date. You can always stay as long as you want, or suggest a new activity to move onto since another activity might be more exciting and a better way to get to know your date.
If you’re deciding whether to do coffee or lunch first date – we generally recommend planning a coffee date later in the morning that can always turn into lunch if it’s going well, but can easily end after coffee is consumed if you aren’t feeling the connection. Here are some other first date ideas in San Francisco if you are looking for alternatives.
If you’re looking for a great coffee shop instead of a sit-down café, we recommend Biscoff Coffee Corner on PIER 39 on Fisherman’s Wharf in San Francisco.